Some marriages feel bumpy from day one. Other times, we may start off strong, but as life throws its challenges our way closeness and connection can begin to fade. When issues go unaddressed, they can lead to a breakdown in communication, resentment, and loss of trust and respect – all of which gradually chip away at the connection between partners.

Signs it may be time to see a couples therapist:

Marriage researcher and therapist Dr. John Gottman explains that when the following patterns become common, couples should seek support right away in order  to protect and strengthen their marriage:

• Chronic defensiveness 
• Ongoing criticism 
• Stonewalling or emotionally shutting out your partner 
• Contempt – making your partner feel small and being disrespectful

Couples therapy isn’t only for times of crisis or to “put out fires“:

It can also be a valuable tool for maintenance, growth, and support during periods of transition—helping you address challenges before they become overwhelming.

Note: If your spouse chooses not to participate in therapy or is not yet ready, some of these concerns can also be addressed in individual counselling .

Conflict management

Building communication and trust

Anger management and emotion regulation

Roles and responsibilities

Family, in-laws and cultural expectations

Sex and intimacy

Parenting